Setting up a few dates! & some rambles..

And I am excited!!

Now I have an excuse to go shopping. I have a ton of shoes so I just need to grab a few cute outfits. I have a few guys that I am meeting this week as well as next.

Why do guys ask "how do I look?" I hate when they ask me that. These guys are sometimes really funny looking but insist on knowing if you think they are attractive. Of course you are not attractive!! But I wont tell you that... We are not here for your looks. We both have something to offer and its, My Looks(not yours!), and your Mulah(not mine!). Other than that I could really care less. The good looking ones never ask that question.

I find it funny when guys dont take well to rejection. They take it so personally. First of all when you are talking to a girl be prepared to deal with a little competition. Especially when Im saying Im not looking for a serious relationship.

I like a man to chase me. But not too much where he turns into a stalker...

I am watching Waiting to Exhale and I can clearly see all of the mistakes that each of these women made and the sad part is that most women make these mistakes every single day.

I like married men only because I am not looking for a relationship. Single guys tend to want more than just a Fuck Buddy. With a married man, I am not there to try to break up his family. I am not looking to get a ring put on my finger. I'm refuse to sit and wait for a man to divorce his wife because he is "unhappy." If a man will cheat on his wife for whatever reason, then best believe no matter how beautiful you are he will cheat on you!

You cant trust a cheater. Because once they do it they always will, what makes you think that they will be different with you?

My ex a few years ago had a girl back home but he was with me every day. When he moved back home he went back to her then broke up with her shortly after. He contacted me, told me he loved me and wanted to be with me, but one drunk night he used her for some sex and guess what she trapped him. Got off birth control and got pregnant by him.

She thought that just because she was pregnant that he was going to change and stay with her but he was still calling me trying to get me to come visit him. That guy will never stop cheating on that stupid girl. I cut him off and havent spoke to him since, but he was fun to fuck while it lasted.. ;)

Dont ever try to change a man. It will never work. My kids father has finaly got his act together and this is 6 years after I dumped him. It would have been nice if he could have done the right things when we were together or even within the last couple of years. It took him being with another girl who was completely fucked up and stupider than her was, to see what he put me through and for him to change. He still is not doing right by our children but I prefer for him not to be around at all because he is a complete idiot.

Ok, I went off into a completely different direction then I planned to.. So I am going to end this here.

Ladies do not try to change or mold your man into anything other than what he is. I will not work. Only he can change himself for real.

Im not a flake... Im NOT a FLAKE!! IM NOT A FLAKE!!!!

lol

Yea. I kinda did flake on this guy. The one from AM who I was supposed to meet today. He lives a good 2 hours away from me and I am NOT a morning person. Shit I wake up at 2pm! (cuz I got it like that!)

I wanted to go but my internal clock wouldnt let me, plus I missed his call and just saw it... 5 hours later!!

As I posted in the comment on the post below, I am very used to dealing with fakes. I have met tons of guys who give me the same shit he gave. Wants to meet me and take me shopping, give me a little cash, go to dinner, see if we click. Oh yea and he is very well endowed. Usually they are full of shit, and I guess I assumed the same with him.

I told him my sizes not expecting for him to actually pick up something for me, but he really did! He got a cute little set from VS because he loves lingerie.

How sweet.


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You know what. It hasnt even been 24hrs and I can tell already that this is much better for me. I enjoy being pursued, and I am the last woman to chase after a man. Thats the biggest difference I see. On SA there are so many girls compared to the number of guys you are literally competing for the guys attention. That is so! not me.

No man I am talking to should be hit on as much as I am especially when he looks like Mr. Peabody! Or Sasquatch!! LMAO

I am the center of attention everywhere I go and thats how I prefer it.
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Im thinking about opening a FB page. Im not really into FB and dont even use it to keep up with RL friends and fam. But I would love to meet other babes and see the faces behind the blogs. Im not about the drama at all, I have heard how some people do. But if I do decide to open a FB I will put the badge on the side.

Im tired of the people I have been around and some new and pretty faces would be awesome! As well as some buddies to party with in the city!

If anyone is in NYC and would like to meet up sans FB shoot me an email!

takeliasb@gmail.com

Non Sugar websites

We all know about sites like Ashley Madison and Match.com. Ashley Madison in particular is geared towards having an affair. I decided to sign up for this site since I was outed and took down my site. I have not been seeing as many clients as I have been or would like to.

Within an hour of signing up and posting a pic i was literally bombarded with instant messages, emails, and requests... I am over a hundred profile views within an hour!!

What I find interesting is that the majority of the men who contacted me were also looking for a mutually beneficial relationship! Of course I am weeding through the fakes and the ones who are not sugardaddys i can tell right away.

I made a rule a long time ago about not doing any webcam stuff. I dont care if they just want to see if the pic is real or not, I will not do it. My main reason being, my pics are never fake and if they are really serious then they should not have a huge issue with meeting me before they see me on webcam.

The webcam guys nine times out of ten just want to jack off to you without having to actually meet you and dish out any money, regardless if it is for dinner or the time they spent with you..

This guy wanted to do a webcam show with me within 10 minutes of chatting so "I could see how hard his dick was" and "we could set something up in 2 weeks when hes back in town".

Sounds like bullshit to me.

I did meet some nice guys and one actually wants to meet up tomorrow. Interesting.

If I do go I will let you know how that went...

One thing I do need to learn how to do is keep in touch with these guys. There are usually so many I can never keep track and I forget about most of them. I hate talking on the phone and many of them prefer that.

Im going to make a point to try to keep in touch and call them at least every 2 days or so... We will see if I can actually keep that up. lol

But all in all, the turn out at Ashley Madison has been a hell of a lot better than I have ever experienced at SeekingArangement or any other site. As far as pots go time will tell.

On my way home...

So I went to see a client the other night. Had a great time with him. I love meeting guys like that. But after a great time with him Im on my way home and came across these two business men. They had obviously just came from the strip club and had been drinking heavily.

Being completely sober, looking amazing, and laughing to myself I decided to entertain them to see if they had the balls to spit out what they were really looking for. Normally I just ignore these types and walk away. They were obviously looking for someone to take home and had their sights set on me.

They were so obnoxious! and they kept asking me all these personal questions, like where I lived.. No way in hell they would ever get that kind of info out of me.

I could tell the short stocky one was dying inside. It was burning his soul this question, but he didnt really know how to or if he should just go ahead and ask if I wanted to spend a little time with him.. lol

I had just had a great time with someone else little did they know... We could have set something up.

Ive never picked up a guy like that and I seriously do not think that would have been a good way to do it. But I just thought it was too funny. Maybe I should have given him my card, and had him make an appt... lol

Next time I will, because these guys were not the only ones trying to take me home that night.. lol

The L word

I hate that word.

I hate when clients say it to me.

I hate when regular people say it to me.

When i hear that word... I run for the hills.

Am I Wrong???

Am I Wrong???

Am I wrong because I enjoy the company of my clients more than I enjoy the company of anyone else in my life????

Am I wrong for doing the things that I have to do in order for my children to have the things that they need?

Am I wrong for not giving a fuck what anyone else thinks about the things that I do?

Am I wrong for attempting to keep other people out of my issues even though they insist on butting in??

Am I wrong???

Why do people insist on trying to make me feel bad about they way I feel about things? Why is it that people say one thing but do another. When it all comes down to it, the people who are supposed to be there for you, the people who are supposed to give you the support that you need, they are never there.

I am so sick and tired of this. I have not a single friend or family member who I can trust or who I can depend on.

My biggest issue is that I hardly ask anyone for anything, I NEVER ask people for money. But people always act like I owe them something, people always treat me like shit. Its the little things. I think its crazy because its my nature to care about everyone around me. Its my nature to give even though I hardly get anything in return. I think I need to change this about myself.

I am so fucking tired of this shit. No matter who it is, its always the same damn thing. I dont know if its me or what. I think Im too fucking nice.

I dont care anymore. Looks like when all is said and done Im going to have to kick a few more people to the side.

Im tired of people hurting me, even when they dont know they are. Im tired of feeling attacked for any bit of nothing I do.

Just in case you are wondering where this is coming from, heres an example that happened just today:

I wasnt feeling well because I ate a cupcake last night, make my stomach cramp like crazy! I think I have food poisoning and I was nauseated all fucking day. Someone asked me to do something so of course I didnt do it right away and of course they continued to nag about it.

Next thing I know they are ganging up on me jumping in my face because I apparently have this "attitude" and Im so "mad about whatever" and I also "have issues" that I need to work on...

....

Seriously??

I didnt think it was that big of a deal, and not one time did I disrespect anyone so why the hell am I the one being disrespected. This type of crap happens all the time.

These are the same fucking people who claim to be so much better than everyone and they dont EVER fight. Such bullshit!! Why do people have to pretend to be so much better than others.

I dont get that shit. We are all the same. If I would have yelled at them and said how I really feel then I would be the one thats wrong. Either way I cant win and I am Done!


Oh yea...

I forgot to mention the part where my fam went digging and then told everyone about my website...
Fucking perverts all in my shit and telling all their friends.

And people always wonder why I cut so many people off.. People always wonder why I never call them. I have no fucking reason to. Why would I want to talk to you when you take everything I do or say and twist it into something negative so that you can have some crazy story to tell your friends.

But I am the one who has issues.

Im DONE!